Once in a while as women, we need to pause take inventory, reflect, step back, and pray. Because by nature, most women are nurturers making it easy to lose sight of self. Many will give to a job, to a husband, to children, and to family. Then we fail to rest which may lead to a road of self-destruction. We must be careful not to wake up one day and realize that life has passed us by, and we have not engaged in our interests, our passions, or ourselves. We don’t want to awake and find that the children are all adults, the marriage has no spark, and the vision of dreams has flickered and burned out. All we have left is ourselves; the woman looking back in the mirror older, slower, and unrecognizable. We have forgotten how to soar freely like a kite in the wind. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that we don’t need an audience, affirmation, or reassurances from anyone. We need permission from ourselves to let go and soar, to be, and to live unapologetically.
Slowly destructing….
You lose a little piece of yourself every day
It is a prolonged process,
But it eventually happens
Unbeknownst to you as to when it started…
Look into your past
Once you were Daddy’s little girl.
How you grew up and became someone’s wife
Only to mature and play the role of “Mom”
The major years of your life have been
Spent fulfilling a role,
And when all is said and done,
Answer this question,
“What role have you played for yourself?”
If you have no answer, life is passing you by
without a goal, self-satisfaction, or
fulfillment.
Only you can address what makes you complete.
Handle your present roles,
But continue to take on new challenges.
Do this with the love for family
And without guilt.
For guilt tears away at the conscience, at confidence,
And self-esteem.
Guilt makes us weak and doubtful.
Taking on the world for everyone else
With your compassion and sensitivity,
Causes you to ride an emotional rollercoaster.
That ride of twists, turns, hills, and drops
Cause great concern from family and friends.
Let this be a reminder that people who care for you
Don’t want to see self-destruction,
Perhaps it takes a stranger,
To tell you your priorities
Put God first
then take care of yourself
Because your self care sometimes has to come
Before family members so that
You can be whole for them.
Do this
Without hesitation,
And without guilt.
Sometimes self-preservation becomes a necessity
In order to keep individuality, self-control,
And most of all sanity.
So my dear friend,
Go in search of freedom,
Peace,
And self….
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